Top Strategies for Managing Anxiety in Daily Life

This guide outlines anxiety signs, daily impact, and practical management techniques like relaxation, cognitive restructuring, and gradual exposure, emphasizing professional support via counseling and workplace programs.

Accessing Psychology Services via Telehealth at Your Mind Matters

Why Telehealth Matters in Mental Health Care

In today’s busy world, flexibility in accessing mental health support is more important than ever. Telehealth psychology sessions allow you to connect with a qualified psychologist from the comfort of your home, school, or workplace. At Your Mind Matters (YMM), our clinicians offers secure, evidence-based telehealth services to ensure support is available wherever you are in Victoria and across Australia.


What is Telehealth in Psychology?

Telehealth refers to psychological consultations delivered via a secure online platform. You’ll speak with your psychologist in real time, just as you would in a clinic, but without the need to travel. Research shows that telehealth can be just as effective as face-to-face sessions for many mental health concerns, including:

  • Anxiety and depression
  • ADHD and executive functioning challenges
  • Autism assessments and therapy supports
  • Trauma-informed care
  • NDIS-related psychological assessments and reports

Benefits of Choosing Telehealth at YMM

  • Accessibility: Access therapy if you live regionally or face mobility challenges.
  • Flexibility: Schedule sessions around school, work, or family commitments.
  • Continuity of Care: Maintain regular support even if you relocate or cannot attend in person.
  • Evidence-Based Practice: Our psychologists use interventions that are informed by the latest clinical research.

Is Telehealth Right for You?

Telehealth may be suitable if you prefer the comfort of your own space, live outside Melbourne, or find it difficult to attend in person. For children and young people, telehealth can work best when a parent, carer, or support worker is nearby to assist with technology and engagement.

If you’re unsure, our team can help you decide whether telehealth or in-clinic appointments are the best fit for your needs.


How YMM Delivers Safe and Effective Telehealth

At Your Mind Matters, our psychologists follow strict professional and ethical standards to ensure that online sessions are safe, private, and effective. This includes:

  • Using secure, encrypted video platforms
  • Maintaining confidentiality and privacy at all times
  • Providing clear information so you can make informed decisions about your care
  • Following AHPRA and Psychology Board of Australia guidelines for safe practice

Booking a Telehealth Appointment

Accessing telehealth psychology at YMM is simple:

  1. Get in touch with our team to discuss your needs or view our clinician profiles here: https://yourmindmatters.net.au/our-team
  2. Book an appointment at a time that suits you through our online portal: https://clientportal.zandahealth.com/clientportal/yourmindmatters
  3. Connect online with your psychologist using a secure link sent before your session.

Whether you are seeking an ADHD or autism assessment, or ongoing therapy, our telehealth psychologists are here to support you.

👉 Book a telehealth appointment with a psychologist today! Head to our website and learn about our clinicians. Once you know who you’d like to work with, call us or book online: https://yourmindmatters.net.au/contact-us/

Applications of AI in Psychology

Transforming Treatment Approaches – or Are We?

In recent years, Artificial Intelligence (AI) has entered the field of psychology with great promise, offering to revolutionise the way mental health care is delivered. From faster diagnostic tools to personalised treatment plans and predictive modelling, the applications of AI seem vast — and growing. But while the excitement is justified, it’s also important to approach this technological wave with a critical eye.

Sharper Diagnosis or Data Dependence?

AI has shown significant capability in enhancing diagnostic accuracy. Algorithms can now analyse enormous volumes of patient data — including voice patterns, facial expressions, and even social media activity — to detect early signs of anxiety, depression, and other mental health conditions. These tools can help flag concerns earlier and more efficiently than ever before.

However, while AI can detect patterns, it doesn’t “understand” them in the human sense. We must ask: Are we relying too heavily on data-driven cues at the expense of lived experience? The nuance of a client’s story, the context behind their tone or expression, and cultural factors influencing their behaviour are still best interpreted by a trained human mind.

Personalised Therapy or Algorithmic Assumptions?

Another exciting avenue is AI-assisted personalisation of therapy. By analysing how clients respond to interventions over time, AI can help practitioners fine-tune treatment approaches. It can even suggest strategies that align with a client’s unique emotional and behavioural patterns. Therapeutic chatbots, such as Woebot or Wysa, are being used as supplementary tools for between-session support. These tools are especially useful in increasing accessibility for those who may not seek traditional therapy due to stigma or logistical barriers. Yet there’s a limit to how “personal” an algorithm can truly be.

Can an AI model genuinely understand a client’s shifting emotional world, or their resistance to therapy, in the same way a clinician can? Personalisation must go beyond pattern recognition — it must include deep listening, attunement, and emotional resonance.

Predicting Crises: Progress or Pre-emption?

One of the most intriguing frontiers is AI’s potential to predict mental health crises before they escalate. By analysing trends in behaviour and mood data, AI tools can alert clinicians to early warning signs, enabling timely intervention. While this has undeniable value — especially in high-risk populations — it raises ethical and clinical questions: What happens when AI flags a “risk” that the client doesn’t perceive? Do we risk medicalising normal emotional fluctuations? And how do we avoid reinforcing surveillance-style care under the guise of support?

Revolutionising Research — ResponsiblyAI is already transforming mental health research, making large-scale data analysis faster and more efficient. It also allows for real-time feedback to clinicians based on evolving research findings — a huge asset in a field where evidence-based practice is essential.

However, we must guard against the “solutionism” trap — the idea that every complex mental health issue has a data-driven fix. Psychological healing is not always linear or measurable, and our research tools must reflect the complexity of human experience.

Ethics and Empathy: A Necessary Tandem

Perhaps the biggest challenge in integrating AI into mental health care is preserving the ethical and human foundations of therapy. Data privacy, informed consent, and transparency must remain at the forefront. Clinicians also need to feel confident in questioning AI recommendations — especially when they conflict with clinical judgment or the client’s narrative.

Importantly, AI can’t replicate the therapeutic alliance — the healing power of being seen, heard, and validated by another human being. AI may assist us, but it should never attempt to replace the therapist’s role in providing a safe, relational space.


Final Thoughts

AI is undoubtedly reshaping the landscape of psychological practice. It offers powerful tools that can enhance assessment, personalise treatment, and support prevention efforts. But like any tool, its value depends on how we use it.

At Your Mind Matters, your clinician may use AI to help take notes, create guided imagery scripts, or – my favourite – challenge my diagnostic impressions against the DSM-5 (our diagnostic manual). 

We won’t be replaced by AI, but if there is a way to enhance client care, it is certainly something we will integrate!

PS- any AI we use is compliant with Australian privacy standards of course!

This blog was written by Laura Forlani, Clinical Psychologist and Director at YMM

Fact checked by ChatGPT 🙂

Self-compassion: Why is it important?

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Life can be extremely difficult. The possibility of human experience is endless. Regardless of how privileged or disadvantaged we are; human beings all connect in our capacity for psychological suffering.

We all can move to listening to a harsh internal critic. Do you have an inner critic? If so, what is the purpose of this critic? Is this critic chastising you, searching for your flaws, punishing you, and comparing you? Is it maybe even preventing you from doing things you love, or from living by your values and being your authentic self?

Let’s consider a few examples:

 

Imagine you have broken your leg and fractured your ribs from a bicycle accident and that you have the choice of getting help with daily tasks from companion A or companion B.

Companion A says to you: “Suck it up, it’s not that bad, you’re pathetic! Plenty of people are worse off than you, quit with the baby tears”

Companion B says to you: “This absolutely sucks. You must be in some really awful pain and feel like you’ve lost some independence that I know is so important to you. I’m here for you, let’s just take it slow together”

Strangely we are often the Companion B to our friends but often not to ourselves!

 

Imagine a close friend of yours just went through a romantic relationship break-up. They tell you their heartfelt story, and you listen intently from start to finish. Your friend isn’t perfect, but they deserve to be happy. You reassure them that they’ll get through this, they’re a wonderful human being, and that it can be painful, but they will be okay.

You don’t judge your friend. You don’t tell them they are not worthy, they are unlovable, will never find anybody, are ugly, stupid or that they need to change.  You show your friend compassion. Strangely we often don’t do the same for ourselves!

 

Imagine you are at work and your boss calls you in for a meeting to have your annual review. She discusses your strengths and lets you know she is so happy to have you on the team. She then gives you some constructive advice related to organisation/planning skills. Coming from a place of critical judgment, you only hear the negative, and tell yourself, “I’m an incompetent idiot. I’m a shambolic mess and I can’t do anything right”. You head home and feel stressed out, go over all your flaws from memory and can’t sleep.

Coming from a place of fairness and acceptance, you see and hear the whole message, and tell yourself, “I’m doing a really solid job & working well with the team. I’m going to take on her helpful advice and learn from this”. This is a more compassionate response.

 

What is self-compassion?

There are many different definitions of self-compassion in the literature. I kind of like Neff (2003) that suggests there are 3 components that collaboratively interact to develop a self-compassionate frame of mind:

  • Self-kindness versus self-judgement – Self-kindness is simply that! Responding with and developing a tendency to be caring and understanding with oneself, and letting go of the harsh judgmental critic. It is about being honest with ourselves about our pain, our flaws, our mistakes and not ignoring, and also not wallowing in self-pity; but acknowledging and responding with genuine kindness, soothing and comfort to the self.
  • A sense of common humanity versus isolation – The common humanity aspect involves recognizing that all human beings have cracks, and make mistakes. We aren’t alone here! Nobody is perfect! These flaws and cracks make us who we are and connecting one’s own flawed condition to the shared human condition helps with greater perspective and understanding. Individuals who are self-compassionate accept themselves as they are and for who they are, rather than what or who they “should” be.
  • Mindfulness versus overidentification – Mindfulness involves simply being aware of one’s present moment experience and accepting things as they are. It is not ignoring or ruminating, but observing and accepting the pain, and being self-compassionate. Mindfulness will also help in developing self-compassion habits, like recognizing when your body is feeling anxious and your thoughts are being judgmental toward yourself.

 

What we know from the research is that when you’re critical and judgmental of yourself, you’re more likely to experience feelings of anger, anxiety, sadness, loneliness and insecurity. When you treat yourself fairly you are in a position to manage these uncomfortable feelings with acceptance.

Self-compassionate individuals often take pride in their human characteristics and believe they are good natured, well-meaning, and competent, and happily understand their unique weaknesses or areas they can work on. They know they are a work in progress and embrace it.

It’s kind of hard to break old habits and practice self-compassion.

I encourage you to treat yourself fairly and with kindness, and see what happens.

 

 

References

Barnard, L. K., & Curry, J. F. (2011). Self-compassion: Conceptualizations, correlates, & interventions. Review of General Psychology, 15(4), 289-303.

Neff, K. D. (2003). The development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and identity2(3), 223-250.

 

 

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This blog was written by Karen Dreher – Counsellor at YMM.

Karen is a member of The Australian Counselling Association (ACA). She has completed a Masters of Counselling, a Graduate Diploma in Psychology, and additional training in Gottman (couples) Therapy.

Karen is a person-centred counsellor who values the diversity of human narrative and her client’s own personal meanings, experiences and feelings. Karen provides a warm, empathetic, authentic space that supports clients in engaging in their own self-understanding and healthy well-being.

To learn more about Karen, check out the “Our Team” page on our website! https://yourmindmatters.net.au/our-team/

 

Coping with the Stress of Year 12’s Final Semester with Strategies for Success

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The final year of high school, Year 12, is a crucial period in a student’s academic journey. It’s a time filled with academic pressures, applications for further study for some, and the looming sense of transition into adulthood. Coping with the stress of the year 12’s final semester is essential for both academic success and overall well-being. As psychologists and counsellors, we often encounter young people who present with high anxiety in relation to their final semester at high school. As a parent / caregiver, witnessing your young person navigate the stress of Year 12’s final semester can also be a challenging experience. Your support and guidance play a crucial role in helping your young person to succeed during this pivotal time in their academic journey. In this blog entry, we’ll explore ways students can cope at this time, and how parents / caregivers can effectively support and encourage their young person while also managing their own stress.

 

For Students

Time Management and Organization / Study Techniques

One of the first steps in dealing with Year 12 stress is effective time management. Create a study schedule that allows you to allocate sufficient time for each subject, breaks, and relaxation. Use tools like calendars and task lists to keep yourself organized and on track. Experiment with different study techniques to find what works best for you. This might include creating study guides, flashcards, whilst participating in study groups can also help. Don’t forget to take regular, longer breaks to prevent burnout. The Pomodoro technique (https://www.verywellmind.com/pomodoro-technique-history-steps-benefits-and-drawbacks-6892111) can help to focus time and attention, whilst scheduling breaks to maintain your commitment to the task.

 

Set Realistic Goals

While high expectations can be motivating, setting overly ambitious goals can lead to unnecessary stress. Establish realistic academic and personal goals that are achievable within your capacity. Using SMART goal setting techniques can help to break overall goals down into smaller, manageable tasks to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

 

Seek Support

Don’t hesitate to seek help from teachers, tutors, or classmates if you’re struggling with coursework. Communication is key, and educators are usually more than willing to offer guidance and support. Additionally, confiding in friends and family about your stress can provide emotional relief.

 

Practice Self-Care

Your mental and physical well-being should be a top priority. Make time for self-care activities such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and spending time with friends and loved ones. Getting enough sleep and eating a balanced diet are essential for maintaining your energy and focus.

 

Mindfulness and Stress Reduction

Mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing and meditation, can help manage stress and anxiety. Incorporate these practices into your daily routine to stay grounded and calm, especially during exam periods.

 

Manage Exam Anxiety

It’s normal to feel anxious before exams, but excessive anxiety can hinder your performance. Practice relaxation techniques, visualize success, and use positive self-talk to boost your confidence. Grounding techniques (https://www.healthline.com/health/grounding-techniques#soothing-techniques) can be helpful to manage your anxiety.

 

Stay Informed About Uni / TAFE Applications

If further education applications are part of your Year 12 journey, stay informed about deadlines, requirements, and other financial assistance opportunities. Start the application process early to avoid last-minute stress.

 

Celebrate Achievements

Acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Positive reinforcement can boost your motivation and reduce stress.

 

Keep Perspective

Remember that Year 12 is just one phase of your life. While it’s important, it doesn’t define your entire future or who you are as a person. Keep perspective on your long-term goals and aspirations and be kind to yourself along the way.

 

For Parents / Caregivers / Carers

Introduction

As a parent / caregiver, witnessing your young person navigate the stress of Year 12’s final semester can be a challenging experience. Your support and guidance play a crucial role in helping them to succeed during this pivotal time in their academic journey. Read on for ways you can effectively support and encourage your young person while also managing your own stress.

 

Open and Non-Judgmental Communication

Create an open and non-judgmental environment where your young person feels comfortable discussing their concerns, fears, and achievements. Listen actively to their thoughts and feelings and avoid imposing undue pressure.

 

Understand Their Needs

Recognise that each person in your care is unique. Understand your young person’s learning style, strengths, and challenges. This knowledge can help you provide tailored support.

 

Set Realistic Expectations

While you want the best for your young person, it’s essential to hold realistic expectations. Encourage them to do their best without placing undue pressure to achieve perfection.

 

Provide a Structured Environment

Help your young person establish a structured daily routine that includes study time, breaks, and relaxation. Ensure they have a quiet and comfortable place to study.

 

Offer Emotional Support

Year 12’s final semester can be emotionally taxing. Be a source of emotional support, offering encouragement, understanding, and reassurance. Let them know that you believe in their abilities and recognise their efforts.

 

Encourage Self-Care

Emphasize the importance of self-care. Encourage your young person to maintain a healthy diet, get enough sleep, and engage in physical activities or hobbies they enjoy.

 

Help with Time Management

Teach your young person time management skills. Assist them in creating a study schedule, setting achievable goals, and prioritising tasks if they are happy to accept your help.

 

Celebrate Achievements

Celebrate your young person’s achievements, both big and small. Positive reinforcement can boost their confidence and motivation.

 

Connect with Educators

Maintain open lines of communication with your young person’s teachers and other school supports. Stay informed about their academic progress and address any concerns promptly.

 

Manage Your Own Stress

Managing your own stress is essential. Take time to relax, practice self-care, and seek support from friends, family, or professionals if needed. Your own well-being is crucial in providing effective support to your young person.

 

Be Flexible

Understand that there may be setbacks or challenging moments. Be flexible and adapt your approach as needed. Sometimes, a temporary change in study strategies or routines can make a big difference.

 

Discuss Future Plans

Have open discussions about your young person’s post-Year 12 plans. This can include university / TAFE applications, career aspirations, and any additional support they may need.

 

Supporting your young person through the stress of Year 12’s final semester requires patience, empathy, and effective communication. By offering encouragement, creating a supportive environment, and ensuring their well-being, you can help them to navigate this challenging phase with greater ease. Remember that your unwavering support can make a significant difference in their academic success and overall well-being.

 

Here are three popular book references that discuss coping with supporting a young person through high school:

 

  1. “The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed” by Jessica Lahey

This book explores the importance of allowing young people to experience failure and learn from their mistakes. It provides insights into how parents / caregivers can support their young person’s growth and development by not putting excessive pressure on them, which is especially relevant during the stressful Year 12 period.

 

  1. “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck

This book delves into the concept of fixed and growth mindsets and how they influence learning and achievement. It offers valuable guidance on how parents / caregivers can foster a growth mindset in their young person, helping them approach challenges, including Year 12 stress, with resilience and a positive attitude.

 

  1. Mindfulness for Teen Anxiety: A Workbook for Overcoming Anxiety at Home, at School, and Everywhere Else” by Christopher Willard

This workbook is tailored specifically for adolescents and offers practical mindfulness-based strategies for managing anxiety and stress.

 

NB: Remember that your young person is so much more than their final ATAR score and support them to understand / believe this too.

 

 

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This blog was written by Ian Clark – Clinical Psychologist at YMM.

Ian is a Clinical Psychologist with over 10 years experience in private practice. He enjoys working with adolescents and adults presenting with a range of difficulties, including mood disorders, anxiety, and stress related to school or work. Ian believes it is essential to the therapeutic process to provide a welcoming, safe, and non-judgemental environment in which to carefully explore ways to help people to make positive changes in their lives.

To learn more about Ian, check out the “Our Team” page on our website! https://yourmindmatters.net.au/our-team/

How to Succeed in Achieving Your Goals: A Quick Guide to Changeology

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What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.

                                                                                                                              Henry David Thoreau

 

Change is a Process not a Single Event or Action

Humans are capable of impressive personal accomplishments even in the midst of deep suffering. The backbone of all goals is embracing self-change. Whether making a new habit stick (e.g., going to the gym) or making a permanent transformative life change (e.g., ending long-term addiction), navigating the process of change can be daunting.

The science of behaviour change (Changeology) outlines a more efficient and effective path to successful change and goal achievement, based on 40 years of extensive psychological research (Norcross, 2013).

 

“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”

                                                                                                               Albert Einstein

 

SMART Intrinsic Goals Provide Effective Direction to the New You

Define SMART goals to maximise your chances of success (Moore, 2019; Sutton 2020). Make your goals relevant to you and your life priorities. Intrinsic goals have deeply rooted personal meaning and align with our core values and need for growth and fulfilment. Meaning provides a sense of direction, purpose and satisfaction in life.

Specify realistic goals (and subgoals), differentiating between short-term and long-term goals. Ensure goals are within your control and are expressed in a healthy/positive direction. Measure your goals (e.g. number of cigarettes smoked) to track progress. Successful self-changers teach us that it takes 90 days to create lasting behaviour change (Norcross, 2013).

 

“ A goal without a plan is just a wish.”

                                                        Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

 

Stage of Change Predicts the Probability of Long-term Success

People’s journey of change typically unfolds over time across 5 sequential Stages:

Precontemplation (deny/minimise problem; no intention to change),

Contemplation (recognise problem; ambivalent about change; no commitment to act),

Preparation (intend to take action/ take “baby steps”),

Action (modify behaviour, experiences and/or environment to overcome problem),

Maintenance (prevent relapse and stabilise behaviour change over time).

 

People spend varying time in each stage, but complete specific activities at each stage to progress to the next stage (Transtheoretical Model). The further along you are in the stages, the more likely you are to succeed. Assess My State of Change (Dr John Norcross, https://www.changeologybook.com/) helps identify your readiness for change.

 

Key to Efficient Change and Goal Achievement: Doing the Right Thing at the Right Time

Dr Norcross’ scientific approach to realising goals involves traversing 5 sequential Steps over a period of 90 days. At every step, goal progression is tracked (e.g., graphing cigarettes smoked). This maintains focus, provides feedback and helps reward your achievement.

People derail at any step. Some remain in Contemplation confronted by unrealistic expectations/self-defeating thoughts. Others rely excessively on motivation/ willpower when needing skills to take Action. Research shows that 15% of individuals who relapse regress to Precontemplation while 85% move back to Contemplation and eventually back into Action. Moving from Contemplation to Action doubles a person’s chances of succeeding (e.g., sobriety).

Successful self-changers typically recycle through the Steps in a spiral path, before reaching their end goals and creating lasting change (e.g., maintaining sobriety). Focus on meaningful goals that place you further along in the 5 Steps process.

The key to success involves identifying your Step (stage) and implementing proven strategies/change catalysts specific to that Step, in order to move to the next Step (Step matching).

 

Norcross’ 5 Steps and Strategies to Achieving Your Goals:

1. Psych: Get Ready (Stage: Contemplation; Week 1&2)

Outline intrinsic goals and define the New You (without consequences of the problem behaviour). Increase motivation to change.

Catalysts: Raising awareness of problem behaviour/ (un)desirable consequences and (New) You. Harnessing emotions pulling you away from change/towards a better ideal future. Redirecting these emotions (e.g., fear/ guilt/ shame/regret) to propel you forward. Committing- reviewing Pros/Cons of change; declaring your goal to another person.

2. Prep: Prepare Before Leaping (Stage: Preparation; Week 2&3)

Define SMART Goals. Understand the behavioural chain of the problem behaviour (triggers /behaviour/consequences). Build commitment before making your goal public. Choose your start day, identify support people, take “baby steps” and prepare for the launch.

Catalysts: Committing (e.g., practicing healthy alternative behaviour to increase self-efficacy); Finalising Action Plan with your Change Team (1-4 committed/supportive people).

3. Perspire: Take Action (Stage: Action; Week 2-8)

Develop healthy alternatives to the problem and build new behaviours. Create a flourishing environment/Change Team.

Catalysts: Rewarding yourself for keeping on track. Countering (doing healthy opposites of the behavioural problem, e.g., confronting dreaded situations); Controlling your environment (e.g., avoiding high-risk situations/people that can rekindle problem behaviour); Maintaining contact with Change Team (e.g., to keep a positive outlook, cope ahead, practice skills-Saying NO to requests that regress to old behaviour).

4. Persevere: Manage Slips (Stage: Maintenance; Week 8-12)

Minimize exposure to triggers that precipitate a slip; Recognise a slip (lapse; single unwanted event) need not become a fall (relapse; end goal is abandoned /reverting back to old patterns); Forge towards your goal despite unavoidable self-defeating thoughts/feelings/setbacks. Reach out to your Change Team for support.

Catalysts: Responding constructively after a slip; Preparing for the next time you slip (Create My Slip Card; Dr John Norcross, https://www.changeologybook.com/).

5. Persist: Maintain Change (Stage: Maintenance; Week 12 and beyond)

Master relapse prevention skills to maintain the New You. Have backup plans for unavoidable slips. If a rare slip occurs, understand the behaviour/situation, and shift any self-blame to lessons learnt and respond constructively to steer yourself back on track towards your goal.

Catalysts: Sustaining new behaviour (value/intrinsic meaning act as reinforcer); Enhancing self-efficacy across high-risk situations; Understanding process of change; Distinguishing between when to exit or persevere for a lifetime. Exit if temptation to regress/relapse across triggers is very low, self-efficacy to maintain the new behaviour is high across situations and a healthy lifestyle precludes the old problem behaviour.

 

“ The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.

                                                                         Lao Tzu

 

Persevere Towards Your Goals with One Small Step at a Time

Through the science of behaviour change, you understand why your efforts derail(ed) and how to steer yourself back on track towards successful goal achievement. You learn to celebrate progress, build self-efficacy and develop self-compassion. You also learn to harness emotions to turn your fears into fuel and feel empowered in your ability to make meaningful, lasting change.

Whatever unique goals or personal change you are seeking, our team of highly skilled mental health professionals at Your Mind Matters is here to support you.

 

 

Resources

Changeology Resources – Book, ChangeologyBook.com Free Resources, Podcast, Youtube 

 Norcross, J. C. (2013). Changeology: 5 Steps to realize your goals and resolutions. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Dr John Norcross- ChangeologyBook.com (e.g., Self-Assessments- Assess My State of Change, Self-Change Exercises-Create My Slip Card).

https://www.changeologybook.com/

Dr John Norcross – Proven Methods to Define Your Goals.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VKaqw_o8OlU

Dr John Norcross – 5 Basic Steps of Change.

https://youtu.be/LVBIQGIPkRY

5 Stages of Change from the Transtheoretical Model.

https://youtu.be/VVyhhMzWkiU

 

Podcast- Dr John Norcross

How to Make Lasting Changes in Your Life with John Norcross.

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/dir-tj6sn-1637861a?utm_campaign=w_share_ep&utm_medium=dlink&utm_source=w_share

 

Goal Setting and Achieving Goals -Defining SMART Goals, Free Worksheets

Moore, C. (2019, May 27). How to Set and Achieve Life Goals The Right Way.

https://positivepsychology.com/life-worth-living-setting-life-goals/

Sutton, Jeremy (2020, July 01). Goal-Setting: 20 Templates & Worksheets for Achieving Goals.

https://positivepsychology.com/goal-setting-templates-worksheets/

 

Science behind Goals, Values, Meaning, Behaviour Change and Flourishing:

Locke, E. A., & Latham, G. P. (2002). Building a practically useful theory of goal setting and task motivation: A 35-year odyssey. American Psychologist, 57(9), 705.

Maslow, A.H. (1943). A theory of human motivation. Psychological Review, 50(4), 370.

Prochaska, J. O., & DiClemente, C. C. (1982). Transtheoretical therapy: Toward a more integrative model of change. Psychotherapy: Theory, research & practice19 (3), 276-288.

Norcross, J. C., Mrykalo, M. S., & Blagys, M. D. (2002). Auld Lang Syne: Success predictors, change processes, and self-reported outcomes of New Year’s resolvers and nonresolvers. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 58(4), 397-405.

Norcross, J. C., Krebs, P. M., & Prochaska, J. O. (2011). Stages of change. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 67, 143-154.

Seligman, M. E. (2004). Authentic happiness: Using the new positive psychology to realize your potential for lasting fulfilment. Simon and Schuster.

Seligman, M. E. (2012). Flourish: A visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being. Simon and Schuster.

 

 

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This blog was written by Annick Saminaden – Psychologist at YMM.

Annick is interested in assisting young people and adults presenting with a wide range of issues including mental health, stress, grief/loss, trauma, self-esteem, assertiveness, perfectionism and school/workplace/career.

Annick provides a safe, non-judgmental and collaborative space to empower clients to create meaningful changes in their lives and enhance their overall well-being. She incorporates a number of evidence-based approaches into her psychological practice including Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, Schema Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy and relaxation techniques. She tailors these approaches to meet the unique needs of her clients.

To learn more about Annick, check out the “Our Team” page on our website! https://yourmindmatters.net.au/our-team/

Importance of Self-Compassion

At some point in our lives, we all have heard the phrase that ‘charity begins at home’! Most of us accept it and even preach it to others when the opportunity for sharing wisdom arises (yeah, we are good at that!). The essence of the above phrase is seated in the value of compassion or kindness towards others. Compassion is empathy, kindness and understanding for others during suffering or challenging times.

So, I have a question for you – have you ever heard that ‘compassion starts with self?’ Probably, not, aside from that fact that I made the phrase up. Chances are that self-compassion is an alien concept and only comes into our lives through social media memes. So let me give you a brief snap shot and advocate the case for ‘self-compassion’ as an essential in our lives.

A simple google search will define ‘self-compassion’ along the lines of empathy, understanding and kindness towards one’s own self, when big or small life challenges happen. Kristen Neff, the world’s leading researcher on self-compassion, has identified three main components to it:

1. Self-kindness vs Self-judgement: treating ourselves with kindness and understanding when we fail, suffer or feel inadequate as opposed to ignoring our needs or belittling ourselves

2. Common-humanity vs Isolation: remembering that everyone fails and suffers at times and that we are not the only ones.

3. Mindfulness vs Over-identification: taking a balanced approach to our challenges and emotions, without over-identifying with heavy emotions or situations.

Kristen’s research has contributed significantly to understanding the importance of practicing self-compassion in daily life and more so when experiencing mental health challenges. Self-compassion also forms a crucial part of my own therapy model and aims at supporting and empowering clients, by helping them connect and understand their own emotions and situations. A simple activity that I encourage client’s to do is to treat themselves at the end of the day, each day. This can be as simple as listening to some music, having a cuppa or going for a walk. Practice makes one perfect!

So, I invite you to explore self-compassion for yourself and incorporate it in small ways within your daily life. Self-compassion will be the strongest script that you can have for yourself. If you would like to work on further developing your skills, our psychologists at Your Mind Matters will be happy to assist you.

Source: self-compassion.org

This blog was written by Prabha Mishr, psychologist at Your Mind Matters Psychology Services. She works with us 2 days per week (day sessions).

Prabha is passionate about building strong rapport with clients and establishing a collaborative relationship. As a practitioner, her belief is that ‘no one size fits all’ and so uses a combination of psychoeducation and research-based interventions such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and play-based therapy to help support clients to reach their goals.

Maintaining emotional wellbeing during the COVID-19 pandemic

2020 sure hasn’t turned out like we envisioned. What started as a regular year, soon turned into something very different. During the COVID-19 pandemic we have all been faced with uncertainty and a level of fear and anxiety. Coupled with that are the frequently changing guidelines/rules we have been asked to adhere to and this can easily lead to feeling overwhelmed. Life as we know it has changed, and what we deemed as “normal” is no longer relevant, well for the short-term that is! We are all in uncharted territory. As a community, we know that we must remain home, to reduce the curve but with that comes a lot of change and adjustment.

Here are some tips to help with maintaining emotional wellbeing whilst in isolation:

  • Stay socially connected. This is most fundamental! Whilst social distancing inhibits us from seeing friends and family, that doesn’t mean we need to disconnect from our supports. Stay connected to family and friends through regular telephone conversations, text messaging, social media or video chat. My personal preference is video chat, as you can see the person and it helps to form that personal connection. There are lots of group video chat platforms and apps that are free to download, e.g. Zoom, Skype, Houseparty. Why not schedule in a coffee catchup with mates online or play online games together? I was recently introduced to the Houseparty app which I found was a great way to chat to several friends at once and we could play in-built games together through the app which included trivia and the apps own version of Pictionary. It was great fun!
  • Establish a daily routine. Routines are beneficial as they provide structure, aid us to be more productive and efficient, encourage good habits and reduce stress. Although your regular routine may not be applicable to the current situation, establishing a new routine/maintaining a form of your usual routine is still important. Allowing yourself to fall out of routine can lead to increased distress and feelings of disempowerment. Sticking to a routine such as a regular bedtime and awakening time, scheduling in time for work/study as well as planning enjoyable activities to look forward to each day, regular exercise, and opportunities to relax, can help to increase your sense of control.    
  • Exercise. Exercise is a natural way to reduce stress and is great for physical and emotional wellbeing! Try and get outdoors for a walk, jog, run or bike ride (remembering to adhere to social distancing regulations). Ask other members in your household to join you or take the kids for a bike ride/scooter ride. If you have some exercise equipment at home, try to schedule in time each day for a workout. There are lots of apps available, online resources, and YouTube exercise clips you can access. For those with an existing gym membership, your gym may be offering online sessions. Why not make the most of your membership and give it a go?! 
  • Relaxation. Set aside time each day to engage in a relaxing activity like a nice bath, reading or a jigsaw. You may wish to try mindfulness meditation (the Smiling Mind app is free and has lots of guided meditations to choose from), some gentle stretching, or calm breathing. For more ideas on various relaxation strategies check out my blog https://yourmindmatters.net.au/incorporating-relaxation-everyday-life/. 
  • Focus on what is within your control. Let’s face it, there is so much that is outside of our control at the moment. No we cannot control the COVID-19 pandemic, the regulations the government has put in place and is enforcing, the impact the pandemic has had on the economy, employment rate, the way we live our lives…the list goes on. I can’t stress how vital it is to focus on what is within your control, what you can do and the choices you can make. Concentrate on how you can look after yourself and others in your household, who you can connect with and offer support/help to (this could include family, friends or the community), and things you can do right now/in the moment that helps to enhance your life or that of others. 
  • Make it fun. Although there are likely other things you’d prefer to be doing, rather than staying at home all day, take the opportunity to make your time at home fun. Some ideas include: 
  • Setting up a tent in the backyard and making a bonfire…you can even roast some marshmallows! 
  • Scavenger hunt
  • Games night (boardgames, cards, videogames etc)
  • Indoor picnic
  • Movie marathon
  • Art/craft activities
  • Manage your exposure to news/media coverage. There is heaps of information out there about COVID-19 and news coverage on every channel. Every time you turn on the TV, radio station, or scroll through social media, you’re likely to come across some form of information about COVID-19 and this can be overwhelming. Stick to reputable sources which can provide you with accurate information.  

I hope these tips are helpful in guiding you through this challenging time. Stay safe and healthy. I know it doesn’t seem like it right now, but as the Buddhist proverb says “this too shall pass”. 

If you would like some support, why not give us a call? Our team of psychologists are here to help. Your Mind Matters Psychology Services is currently offering counselling support through Telehealth (phone or video sessions). For more information, visit https://yourmindmatters.net.au/covid-19/. 

mariaThis blog was written by Maria Kampantais, psychologist at Your Mind Matters Psychology Services. She works with us 4 days per week (day and evening sessions) and is passionate about working with clients suffering from various anxiety disorders.